WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH KIDS NOWADAYS?
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Yes, I am a fool for wanting whats best for my kid. Right...
I am a psych-major, with an emphasis on child psychopathology (abnormal child psychology).
I am for whatever is best for the child. Every good parent should want the same, in my opinion. I am mature enough to be able to put spousal problems aside, when it comes to deciding what is best for the child.
You - on the other hand, seem to be more concerned with spiting your BM, regardless of the fact that some of your spiteful actions may be harming your child.
I am a psych-major, with an emphasis on child psychopathology (abnormal child psychology).
I am for whatever is best for the child. Every good parent should want the same, in my opinion. I am mature enough to be able to put spousal problems aside, when it comes to deciding what is best for the child.
You - on the other hand, seem to be more concerned with spiting your BM, regardless of the fact that some of your spiteful actions may be harming your child.
Man! You took it back for real! Remember playin in canyons? Makin ramps in the street to jump wit ur bike, and throwin rocks at cars? Playin knock knock zoom. Waitin for the ice cream truck to drive off and then hop on the back. We used to ride bikes from skyline to sweetwater high in national city wit no money and not be hungry. These new mallenium kids are gay!
lol..
There you go AGAIN, rambling about your baby-mama drama. This thread is about kids NOT, I repeat *not* about how much of a bitch your BM is.
"My babymama is SUCH a bitch. I just hate her SO much. She is such a CUNT. Oh how I hate my baby-mama!"
Waaaa waaaaaa waaaa.... do you need a fuckin' tissue or what? Jesus-fuckin-Christ..
Oh, and do me a favor will you, Shea? Since I'm so "oblivious" to my so-called 'bitch tendencies', enlighten me as to exactly what my bitch tendencies are? I would be forever grateful.
Because in my opinion, you're the one with BITCH tendencies, since you can't seem to stop BITCHING about how much of a BITCH your BITCH is.
Be a real fucking man. Quit whining about your BM. Put your petty-ass relationship issues aside and do whatever it takes to make sure your son is being taken care of in the best way possible. EVEN, if it means you have to swallow your pride, extract your testicles from the inside of your fucking prostate, and 'side' with that obnoxious cunt mother of your child.
A REAL man wants only whats best for his son. Fuck the dumb shit.
You seem to be missing the point Shea. Lets retrospect for a minute, shall we?
Original post of thread:
Your response to thread:
Do you see the irony?
This is what this thread is about. This is the reason why I 'sidebusted'. In your post, you implied that whenever your BM insists you do something more productive with your child instead of sitting on the couch playing video games, you ignore her.
You are a male role-model to your child. A son is most likely to model the behavior of his father than that of his mother. He looks up to you.
So when his mother (a less-intense influence on his behavior) confronts his father (a more intense influence on his behavior) about doing something more productive, the father ignores the mother. If the child repeatedly witnesses the father ignoring the mother for this reason, the child is conditioned to believe playing video-games is more important than doing something more constructive outside of the home. The child is reinforced in two ways for playing video games. He is reinforced by the pleasure he gets from playing the game, and by the assurance he gets from his father on video game playing being more important than outside activities.
Then, there is also the concept of 'generalization' and 'modeling'. The child is likely to model the behavior of the father. He may model the way the father 'ignores' the mother when she talks. The child may generalize and associate mother with other female authority figures. For example, teachers. The child as a result may ignore his teacher (the way the father ignores the mother when asked to do something constructive), when asked to perform a specific task in the classroom.
You see where I'm going with this?
Kids are HIGHLY impressionable, and every action around them must be taken into account.
You're right. I don't know you. I don't know your BM. You may be an excellent father, and I really hope that you are. But, from reading your posts one can't help but to assume otherwise.
Nevertheless, it was wrong for me to judge your parenting tactics based on just one post. So for that, I do apologize.
Original post of thread:
Your response to thread:
Do you see the irony?
This is what this thread is about. This is the reason why I 'sidebusted'. In your post, you implied that whenever your BM insists you do something more productive with your child instead of sitting on the couch playing video games, you ignore her.
You are a male role-model to your child. A son is most likely to model the behavior of his father than that of his mother. He looks up to you.
So when his mother (a less-intense influence on his behavior) confronts his father (a more intense influence on his behavior) about doing something more productive, the father ignores the mother. If the child repeatedly witnesses the father ignoring the mother for this reason, the child is conditioned to believe playing video-games is more important than doing something more constructive outside of the home. The child is reinforced in two ways for playing video games. He is reinforced by the pleasure he gets from playing the game, and by the assurance he gets from his father on video game playing being more important than outside activities.
Then, there is also the concept of 'generalization' and 'modeling'. The child is likely to model the behavior of the father. He may model the way the father 'ignores' the mother when she talks. The child may generalize and associate mother with other female authority figures. For example, teachers. The child as a result may ignore his teacher (the way the father ignores the mother when asked to do something constructive), when asked to perform a specific task in the classroom.
You see where I'm going with this?
Kids are HIGHLY impressionable, and every action around them must be taken into account.
You're right. I don't know you. I don't know your BM. You may be an excellent father, and I really hope that you are. But, from reading your posts one can't help but to assume otherwise.
Nevertheless, it was wrong for me to judge your parenting tactics based on just one post. So for that, I do apologize.
Apparently, you have a reading comprehension problem. This thread is about kids being lazy and doing nothing but playing video games. THAT, is the parents FAULT. That has ZERO to do with the kids. Parents are supposed to set a prescedent FOR their children. If a child is LAZY, that is 100% THE PARENTS FAULT.
And what exactly does any of this have to do with, well, THIS THREAD? Nothing. Why you are brining up irrelevent information up in this thread is beyond me. Are you trying to flex your Goggle muscle?
Again, what does this have to do with ANYTHING? Being mentally challenged has LITTLE to do with lazy kids playing video games rather than being active.
Who the fuck let Captain Obvious in this thread?
So you want to talk about fallacies, yet here you are using the mutually exclusive rule. Please do not be a hypocrite.
You need to strike 'normal' from your "theory" here, as normal is a SUBJECTIVE word.
Then you say this:
Again with the hypocricy.
Proof?
The fact that you are playing ADHD up as some sort of mental retardation is laughable. I am sure when you become a psychologists or doctor, you can hand the riddlin out like candy like many of them do. Good luck with that.
:ermm:
And what exactly does any of this have to do with, well, THIS THREAD? Nothing. Why you are brining up irrelevent information up in this thread is beyond me. Are you trying to flex your Goggle muscle?
Again, what does this have to do with ANYTHING? Being mentally challenged has LITTLE to do with lazy kids playing video games rather than being active.
Who the fuck let Captain Obvious in this thread?
So you want to talk about fallacies, yet here you are using the mutually exclusive rule. Please do not be a hypocrite.
You need to strike 'normal' from your "theory" here, as normal is a SUBJECTIVE word.
Then you say this:
Again with the hypocricy.
Proof?
The fact that you are playing ADHD up as some sort of mental retardation is laughable. I am sure when you become a psychologists or doctor, you can hand the riddlin out like candy like many of them do. Good luck with that.
:ermm:
1. Statistics DO apply. It is because of 'statistics' that we are able to treat and prevent diseases.
2. I NEVER claimed that my 'statistics' imply to EVERYONE. I merely drew out a possibility (an example of what it COULD amount to), which according to my 'statistics' isn't out of the ordinary. Notice, the repeated use of the word 'may'. For your convenience, I will quote my previous statement, and highlight the word of the day - MAY - in case you missed it the first time around.
And also for your convenience, I will copy and paste the definition of the word, as according to www.dictionary.com
I hope you are now familiar with the 'may' concept.
As far as my implication of you being a bad father because you occasionally play video-games with your son...
Two words: Context Effects. I'll let you look that one up on your own, after re-reading the original post of this thread and your response to it.
Original post of thread:
Your response to thread:
Context-effect.
As far as your question, as to whether I have kids or not. How is this relevant to our discussion? Is a surgeon required to be a survivor of cancer, in order to perform surgery on cancer patients? I fail to see the logic behind your question.
Yes, all kids are different. However, statistics speak for MAJORITY. Not all, MAJORITY.
2. I NEVER claimed that my 'statistics' imply to EVERYONE. I merely drew out a possibility (an example of what it COULD amount to), which according to my 'statistics' isn't out of the ordinary. Notice, the repeated use of the word 'may'. For your convenience, I will quote my previous statement, and highlight the word of the day - MAY - in case you missed it the first time around.
And also for your convenience, I will copy and paste the definition of the word, as according to www.dictionary.com
I hope you are now familiar with the 'may' concept.
As far as my implication of you being a bad father because you occasionally play video-games with your son...
Two words: Context Effects. I'll let you look that one up on your own, after re-reading the original post of this thread and your response to it.
Original post of thread:
Your response to thread:
Context-effect.
As far as your question, as to whether I have kids or not. How is this relevant to our discussion? Is a surgeon required to be a survivor of cancer, in order to perform surgery on cancer patients? I fail to see the logic behind your question.
Yes, all kids are different. However, statistics speak for MAJORITY. Not all, MAJORITY.
Please educate yourself about ADHD, THEN respond to my post. ADHD is GENETIC DISORDER, hence my comparison of the disease to mental retardation, as it is also a genetic disorder. "This thread is about kids being lazy and doing nothing but playing video games." Children with ADHD hae an nability to sustain attention, particularly for repetitive, structured, and less enjoyable tasks (homework, chores, etc etc.) Children with ADHD LOVE video games, because it is a very stimulating activity, and prevents them from becoming 'bored'. The state of being 'bored' easily is neurological. It's not something they 'picked up' because of bad parenting.
I am not arguing that ALL lazy kids have ADHD, I am however arguing, that not in ALL cases, are parents to blame.
This has to do EVERYTHING with this thread, and the point that I was making. I argued that disorders such as ADHD are genetic, in which case bad parenting is NOT to blame. I posted evidence from a twin studies, showing that these disorders ARE in-fact genetic.
Again, ‘lazy kids playing video games’ MAY have ADHD, which is GENETIC, just like mental retardation. It is NOT something that can be blamed on bad parenting.
I was obviously not obvious enough for you, since you are still having a difficult time grasping the concept of a neurological disorder being genetic.
I am not being a hypocrite. This is NOT something I pulled out of my ass. This is a STATISTIC.
I used quotations for a reason. ‘Normal’ from a psychological point of view = ability to adapt in the environment and achieve developmental milestones. These milestones are dependent on the culture, gender, and age. Normal, being how the majority of children develop and adapt. Schizophrenia = abnormal. ADHD = abnormal.
Again, this is according to text. Not something I made up.
Google DSM and ADHD.
Tell that to a parent with an ADHD child. It is a VERY serious disorder and it can be devastating on the child as well as his family. Please educate yourself on this disorder before you reject its seriousness.
I am not arguing that ALL lazy kids have ADHD, I am however arguing, that not in ALL cases, are parents to blame.
This has to do EVERYTHING with this thread, and the point that I was making. I argued that disorders such as ADHD are genetic, in which case bad parenting is NOT to blame. I posted evidence from a twin studies, showing that these disorders ARE in-fact genetic.
Again, ‘lazy kids playing video games’ MAY have ADHD, which is GENETIC, just like mental retardation. It is NOT something that can be blamed on bad parenting.
I was obviously not obvious enough for you, since you are still having a difficult time grasping the concept of a neurological disorder being genetic.
I am not being a hypocrite. This is NOT something I pulled out of my ass. This is a STATISTIC.
I used quotations for a reason. ‘Normal’ from a psychological point of view = ability to adapt in the environment and achieve developmental milestones. These milestones are dependent on the culture, gender, and age. Normal, being how the majority of children develop and adapt. Schizophrenia = abnormal. ADHD = abnormal.
Again, this is according to text. Not something I made up.
Google DSM and ADHD.
Tell that to a parent with an ADHD child. It is a VERY serious disorder and it can be devastating on the child as well as his family. Please educate yourself on this disorder before you reject its seriousness.