Unfortunetly, you fail.
This has ZERO to do with ADHD. This is 100% about the parents.
BTW, I have two friends that are diagnosed with ADHD and my phone vendor...all of them OWN their own companies and 2 of the three are the outdoor type....inculding motorcross, hiking, and marathon running.
It is NOT always the parents fault. 100% about the parents? You can't possibly make such a statement without properly analyzing the child. If you witness a child disobeying his parent, acting out, and only being able to stay focused when playing a video game; how do you know this is a product of bad parenting and not due to a genetic disorder? Conduct-Disorder and Opposition-Defiant-Disorder have been PROVEN to be genetic.
Etiology of ODD/CD
Ÿ Genetic Influences
§ Heritability = 50% for antisocial behavior
Ÿ Twin concordance:
§ MZ = .85
§ DZ = .70
Meaning, if you have an identical twin with Conduct Disorder, you you have an 85% chance of being born with this disorder too.Twin studies are used to determine whether something is inheritable or whether it isn't.
Please educate yourself on the topic and refrain from pulling faux facts/statistics from within the deep of your anus.
If a child is born with Down Syndrome, he/she will still have Down Syndrome no matter how proactive the parent may be when it comes to helping this child.
These disorders are neurological (certain chemicals in the brain do not function as they should).
In fact, 80% of children with ADHD have co-morbid disorders (Conduct Disorder, Learning Disorder, Opposition Disorder, etc). So even with therapy, special school programs, etc; a good parent may be able to keep the symptoms down at bay to a certain extent, but the child will still not be 'normal'. Those who display the least symptoms, have learned certain 'tricks' so to speak on how to work around their disorder. However, if left untreated, the symptoms will become worse. The child will become more violent, for example; as opposed to just not being able to focus during a task in school. Parents have to learn how to 'work around' the disorder to achieve best results. The disorder will still be present. ADHD continues into adolescence and adulthood.
PS: Personal anecdote is NOT evidence. Do not generalize. There are various levels/types of ADHD. I am glad that your friends have learned how to manage the disorder and went on to be very successful. However, this is far from always being the case.