Might be expecting
- Thread starter TRAJIK1
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I didn't prepare myself for fatherhood and I am not with my baby momma and I will not make those mistakes again. like redrum said check your relationship status. is she the one you wanna be with? are the ties strong? what's her relationship like with her fam? what about yours? now I'm not saying run out & marry the girl (my uncle did that shit & didn't tell nobody....lol), all I'm saying is it sucks to have just a baby momma.
well congrats either way, fatherhood or freedom....lol
well congrats either way, fatherhood or freedom....lol
-get a job, if you don't have one already, and start saving up big time!!!(diapers, medicine, co-pays, formula etc etc.).
-tell your lady to sign up for WIC. get some assistance of some sort so you don't pay out of pocket for the check-ups, delivery, and hospital visits.
-sign up at Target, Wal-Mart, Baby's R Us for your babyshower(when the time comes around).
-don't let ya homies dictate how much time you spend with your little one. Your child & lady(if yall serious) come first and the rest second.
-if your lady decides to work later on the road...1 or 2 years after he/she is born(and yall don't have a relative baby sitter) expect to pay 350-500+ for child care. sign up for child care assistance (state pays) ASAP after your he/she is born. There's a long list so the sooner you sign up the better. I don't know how you're doing financially so if you need the help...seek it.
Both my lady and I work so we pay almost $500 a month(rediculous i know...but we went through 4 childcare providers until we found the right one). We don't have relatives to care for our 2 yr old and we make too much to receive assistance. So keep that into consideration for child care. But if yall have relatives to care for your child....that's GREAT!!! Not saying it'll be free....but it won't sum up to no $400-$600.
Last but not least...
Words of advice...The more time you spend with your child the more he/she will learn from you. The stronger the bond the greater the relationship.
Good luck and Congratulations!!!
-tell your lady to sign up for WIC. get some assistance of some sort so you don't pay out of pocket for the check-ups, delivery, and hospital visits.
-sign up at Target, Wal-Mart, Baby's R Us for your babyshower(when the time comes around).
-don't let ya homies dictate how much time you spend with your little one. Your child & lady(if yall serious) come first and the rest second.
-if your lady decides to work later on the road...1 or 2 years after he/she is born(and yall don't have a relative baby sitter) expect to pay 350-500+ for child care. sign up for child care assistance (state pays) ASAP after your he/she is born. There's a long list so the sooner you sign up the better. I don't know how you're doing financially so if you need the help...seek it.
Both my lady and I work so we pay almost $500 a month(rediculous i know...but we went through 4 childcare providers until we found the right one). We don't have relatives to care for our 2 yr old and we make too much to receive assistance. So keep that into consideration for child care. But if yall have relatives to care for your child....that's GREAT!!! Not saying it'll be free....but it won't sum up to no $400-$600.
Last but not least...
Words of advice...The more time you spend with your child the more he/she will learn from you. The stronger the bond the greater the relationship.
Good luck and Congratulations!!!
If that ain't some real shit....
...my son turns 7 months today and I wouldn't change anything that's happened. My girl signed up for WIC and we were able to get it through some loophole. We get/got cereal, milk, eggs, cheese, juice, and then formula and cereal for the baby. And it's not like most people picture the government cheese and shit, it's the shit from the store. I can't tell you how many boxes of Honey Bunches of Oats and other shit I got at the house. You really need to sit down with her and just come up with a plan, so that when you do tell your parents, you ain't lookin there like an idiot.
I told my parents over Thanksgiving dinner when I knew that they'd be least upset just in case. My parents asked me where my girl was eating at and I said her parents, and right after, my brother goes, "yeah, and she's eating for two!" I wasn't really ready, but it is what it is. They were both happy as hell so I guess I was lucky in that sense. Then me and my girl decided how we would tell her parents and just carried it out. As long as they know that you have a plan and that you're gonna take care of shit, at least they'll be somewhat comfortable.
Good luck and congrats man.
Oh yeah, start stocking up on diapers of ALL SIZES and wipes NOW!!!
...my son turns 7 months today and I wouldn't change anything that's happened. My girl signed up for WIC and we were able to get it through some loophole. We get/got cereal, milk, eggs, cheese, juice, and then formula and cereal for the baby. And it's not like most people picture the government cheese and shit, it's the shit from the store. I can't tell you how many boxes of Honey Bunches of Oats and other shit I got at the house. You really need to sit down with her and just come up with a plan, so that when you do tell your parents, you ain't lookin there like an idiot.
I told my parents over Thanksgiving dinner when I knew that they'd be least upset just in case. My parents asked me where my girl was eating at and I said her parents, and right after, my brother goes, "yeah, and she's eating for two!" I wasn't really ready, but it is what it is. They were both happy as hell so I guess I was lucky in that sense. Then me and my girl decided how we would tell her parents and just carried it out. As long as they know that you have a plan and that you're gonna take care of shit, at least they'll be somewhat comfortable.
Good luck and congrats man.
Oh yeah, start stocking up on diapers of ALL SIZES and wipes NOW!!!
Yeah...we weren't able to get any form of assistance with our first child 3 years ago, and now that I look back, I'm happy for it. At the time, it was a little rough at first, but we made it just fine. I think we kind of panicked at first, thinking about the bills and whatnot, but just get your mind right and focus and it'll turn out ok.
I've paid every single penny of my wife and children's doctor and hospital bills, every ounce of milk was outta my pocket, every diaper was outta my pocket, etc. I just worked that much harder and grew up enough to realize that I wasn't the important person in the family, unless it came to going out and making that cash.
You'll be fine.
I've paid every single penny of my wife and children's doctor and hospital bills, every ounce of milk was outta my pocket, every diaper was outta my pocket, etc. I just worked that much harder and grew up enough to realize that I wasn't the important person in the family, unless it came to going out and making that cash.
You'll be fine.
son of a bitch...atleast i know i ain't the only one going thru this shit...
all week my girl been sayings she late...i kept telling her to take the test...so she takes it yesterday and finds out she's 5 weeks pregnant...but all i'm saying is 2-3 weeks ago she went in to get some more birth control and atleast i think they test you b4 they start u off don't they??? but yeah, i'm a be a father...i'm not ready but who really is...i have a feeling me and the babies mama ain't gonna be together for that much longer but i will be there for my child just like my father was there for me, when my mom was living off welfare and she couldn't afford having all of us, my father stepped in and took care of me...it was mostly me n' pops my whole life, that's how i wanna be...a good father
all week my girl been sayings she late...i kept telling her to take the test...so she takes it yesterday and finds out she's 5 weeks pregnant...but all i'm saying is 2-3 weeks ago she went in to get some more birth control and atleast i think they test you b4 they start u off don't they??? but yeah, i'm a be a father...i'm not ready but who really is...i have a feeling me and the babies mama ain't gonna be together for that much longer but i will be there for my child just like my father was there for me, when my mom was living off welfare and she couldn't afford having all of us, my father stepped in and took care of me...it was mostly me n' pops my whole life, that's how i wanna be...a good father
Good luck trajik! Great advice hope u don't make too much bread because then u gotta come outta pocket wit that bills if your married.(wich your not/just incase) If not u should be able to get assistance.
And remember -----you still must take of yourself ----- also cuzz if u don't look out for u, u slip up then who's to look out for your kid?? So u are important as well as long as u str8 so will ya seed. Congrats and good luck.
And remember -----you still must take of yourself ----- also cuzz if u don't look out for u, u slip up then who's to look out for your kid?? So u are important as well as long as u str8 so will ya seed. Congrats and good luck.
well i went to her pad. she took the test, and it said she was pregnant, and she cried and shit and i comforted her and was like lets roll to the doc's and see fa sho and yea, shes 1 month pregnant. but its a trip cuz her moms and my parents did trip or nothing my parents were actually excited. but i didnt really care of them trippin more off of her moms, cuz shes barely gonna be 19 and im already gonna be 23. but so far all good. just gotta wait for her pops to touch down. and thanx to everyone for all there advice!
Things you need to focus on the most are coat hangers and abortion clinics. They're your best friends in a time like this.
Haha just playing, but from what I read people got some good advice for you right here in this thread. Props to all those that answered. I'll have to revisit this thread when that times comes for me. Which hopefully isn't for a really fucking long time.
Haha just playing, but from what I read people got some good advice for you right here in this thread. Props to all those that answered. I'll have to revisit this thread when that times comes for me. Which hopefully isn't for a really fucking long time.
