Saying Goodbye...RIP Uncle Mark

[Dana Dane]

A little background....My mom's brother has been homeless for years. He's an alcoholic. He has spent the last 11 or so years on Springs Rd. in Vallejo. We have tried tohelp him, gotten him SSI and a spot, and he burnt it down drunk. All of my friends, all of my brothers friends, all of my parents friends know and love Uncle Mark, and always stop and shoot him a few dollars when we see him. Uncle Mark was hit by a car in fairfield, and the doctors told us he wouldn't live through the night. That was 6 years ago, and, despite the rod in his arm, leg and back, the metal plate in his head, and the slight brain damage, Uncle Mark made a miraculous recovery and kicked up and down Springs Rd. for years. Lately, I have been worried abuot Uncle Mark, because no one has seen himn, its gettin colder by the day, the last time I saw him he was lookin a little slow, etc. Last tuesday, we found out that Uncle Mark has been in the hospital on Life Support since Oct. 20th (my b-day). He has pnuemonia in both lungs, which has incapacitated him, and he has contracted some kind of rare poison or toxin that has slowly ate his stomach. He looks like a 'floater' from the movies, hella bloated and swollen with sickness (and not the good kind). At first, the doctors said that there was a chance that he could recover, but now they are taking it back. He is on life support, and a feeding tube. We met with the doctors, and a counselor at the hospital yesterday, and we decided that the best thing to do would be to take him off everything and let him go peacefully. So, while I am at work today, I get to let it soak in more and more that today at 6:00, we are taking him off life support. They say that once everything is removed, it should only be a matter of 10 or 15 minutes before he passes. I know that its best, the compassionate thing to do, and that he will be in a much better place, but now the remorse is starting to set in. Remorse that we didn't do more to help. Remorse that he hasn't seen his son or daughter for over 10 years, because they have always been embarassed of him. I know that the feelings are natural, but I am freakin out. How do you say goodbye to someone?? How do you tell them that you are sorry that you were too worried about the quality of your own life, too selfish to step in....? Today is gonna be a shitty day.

 

[MISTADON]

Don't make me tear up at work, damnit. May God somehow find a way to give you some peace today, and in the next few days!

 

[Gabe505]

Keep ya head up Dana, if you could do more for him you would. Keep strong in knowing your doing the right thing....

 

[Dana Dane]

Thanks for the support, guys! I appreciate it.

 

[lVleNaCe]

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle, Dana. I haven't had to go through the loss of any family members yet. And to be honest I have no clue how to say goodbye... I am terrorfied of death. Not terrorfied that death will get me, but terrorfied that it will take the ones I love. R.I.P. Uncle Mark. My prayers are with you, the rest of your family & your uncle.

 

[Dana Dane]

Thanks, Menace! In a little over the last year, there have been 6 significant losses in my life, My Uncle No No, My Uncle Carl, My Uncle Mark, Mac Dre, and, as silly as it sounds, 2 pets, both of them 13 years old. Losing someone you love is always hard, and it seems like it gets more frequent as I get older. I am just thankful that I will have the chance to say goodbye, a lot of people are lost without ever getting the chance.

 

[BETO916]

God Bless you and you family Dana.

If you need a shoulder, holler at your boy. From what I hear from people and from what little we have chopped it up, you are a truly genuine person, nothin' fake about you, so I know you always had him, and will have him in your heart. It's natural for you to feel like this, but that was the life your Uncle chose for himself...he did him, and when you live like that, you can't stay healthy forever. I will keep you, your Uncle, and your family in my prayers.


God Bless.

 

[fillyacup]

its just that when you get older it gets closer an closer to you....you realize that alot more.

when your young your like i dont give a fuck....but when age starts to grow on you, so does your maturity an knowledge on basic life situations. saying good bye always sucks, no matter what. its the end of an "episode".but thats why people take pictures an record videos, to have re-runs.


God bless you and your family d.

my prayers have been sent.

 

[NorCal707E]

Dana, I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle You did what did to help him and I bet he loves you, your (his) family and friends a lot. Just go and tell him how much you do love him and will miss him, that's all you can do and like you said, be thankful that you are able to say "goodbye" to him. I never had a chance to say "goodbye" to both of my grandmas and my aunt, I miss saying good by to one of my grandma by 15-20 mins and it really sucked and still to this day I get tears thinking about it and wish that I could of told her goodbye and tell her how much I love and how much i will miss her . Just remember, he'll be up in heaven looking over and taking care of you and your family. If you need anything please let me know, your a good friend.

 

[mustynutz]

Dana...without saying...if you ever need someone to talk to...Im here...

 

[Dana Dane]

we took him off life support at 3:40 and he was pronounced dead at 4:14....wierd, he went in the hospital on my b-day, and the time of his death is my brothers.....


RIP Uncle Mark...tell Grandma and Papa I said hi, and have the loud dude with the dread locks teach you how to do his dance!!!!

 

[KALYN]

I was raised by my Uncle Dana... when he passed it was one of the hardest things I've ever been thru... time will ease the pain I promise... take care girl.. get at me if you need to..

 

[Dipset]

I thought the Rip uncle mark in your sig meant that the gifs of mark7 died

 

[Jimmy Snuka]

Lost both parents this year within six months of each other. You gotta just stay busy and keep in mind how precious life is. Live it with no regrets and you'll be ok. Try and find something positive out of the whole situation.