Man... Owe someone money BUT...

[CannibalCrow]

Ok, let's say you have a friend who you're still getting acquainted with. Maybe you've known them a few months and they invite you to a concert/event or something. You agree, and that's that. They don't do anything else but invite you along.

Anyway, you're on the way TO the concert/event and they spring it on you that they got the tickets for both of you so now you owe THEM $80.

They never told you in advance and you're already mostly there. And you're hurting for cash.

They tell you, " What, did you think it was for free???"

So now you're trying to pay them back and they keep pestering you everytime they call or talk to you in email. You're hurting for cash, and you haven't gotten your paycheck in yet. And even after you do, you've got bills that are sitting and waiting.

Honest, I didn't know I was being charged for going along. And now I owe my friend money and he's being a dick about it. I'm pretty upset because he's talking all kinds of shit about it to my other friends.

What would you do?

 

[Dana Dane]

Fuck him! I wouldn't pay him shit. Tell him you thought it was a date, and you are such a 'traditional girl' that oyu wouldn't think of payin your own way on a date!!!

 

[CannibalCrow]

^^ Haha I may end up saying that.

It wasn't a date or anything like that, but I didn't know I had to pay him.

It's just getting crazy because a friend of mine asked me on the phone why I haven't paid the dickhead back yet, and that he was telling them to remind me.

 

[mustynutz]

yeah fuck that foo crow, he shoulda let you know what was up fro the jump....$80 for some concert tickets...damn..betta have been a good concert

$20 says she aint slept with him yet....lol j/p

naw fuck that he pulled some last minute shit, but then again Crow assumed it was free....they both at fault...aint that a bitch...

I would make a rude joke about how crow can work off the debyt, but i respect her as a woman...

tell him flat out..."NIGGA IM A BROKE MUTHAFUCKA RIGHT NOW, STOP BUGGIN YOU LAST MINUTE TRICK< YOU"LL GET YA MONEY WHEN I GOT IT"

 

[Roxy]

Your "friend" needs to chill. You didn't know about the cost until it was too late, and I think that was shady of them. This person should have let you know from the start that it was going to be costing you $80. Now they're just shit out of luck. Be honest and let this person know that you don't have the money, but once you do you'll pay it, it just might take awhile. If he (she) is your friend then they'll understand. Even though I don't know you, just from your post you seem to be on the up and up, so I'm sure that person will see that too. Good luck with it, I hope the show was worth it. Oh and tell them to stop talking shit about you, that's really not cool.

 

[BETO916]

WACK...that's like inviting you to dinner, then givin' you the bill.

to quote Doug E. Fresh..."cut that zero..." u know the rest.

have you checked into that website I directed you to? (for good payin' jobs)

hit me if you need a reminder.

peace.

 

[Ry]

You should have offered to pay for the ticket before he had to ask you for the money. Even if it wasnt his intention for you to pay, seeing you "reach for your wallet" shows you're not a freeloader and that you appreciate him.

 

[CannibalCrow]

have you checked into that website I directed you to? (for good payin' jobs)

hit me if you need a reminder.

peace.

I ended up getting a job at a bank. As soon as I am getting my 40 a week I'm set. But because I'm training I get 20-25 a week. I'll make good money eventually. I was out of work for awhile and on Monday I get my first paycheck. But I don't have a lot of cash to last me till then..

 

[CannibalCrow]

I would make a rude joke about how crow can work off the debyt, but i respect her as a woman...

Yea, I don't do that to earn my cash anymore Now I work honestly, and it keeps me off the streets..

 

[Dana Dane]

^Then he would have called her bluff and she REALLY would have been on the hook for the money. If someone asks me to go to a function like that, I always ask "What is it gonna set me back" or make a "I'm glad you had pity on my broke ass or I wouldn't be able to go" typa comment. BUT, if he didn't say UP FRONT that it was gonna cost you, I don't think you owe him shit.

 

[CannibalCrow]

Yea, and I guess I should mention that *I* drove because he didn't want to put too many miles on his car because he's not sure how good of shape it's in... So he came to my parent's house, and I picked him up and drove to near Philly to park. Then we took the train into Camden. I put a few miles on my car that day to help him out so at least he should have knocked down the amount I owed him.

 

[2-0-Sixx]

What I would do-

First, tell him, “listen, I’m broke as fuck, I got bills I have to pay, I didn’t know the shit was going to be $80, it never crossed my mind. Now, I will pay you the money, but unfortunately it’s going to take some time. I can pay you a little bit after I get my paycheck (whatever you can afford), and the rest will come on my next paycheck”.

Now, I would pay him back over time, but the thing is after this shit that happened you now know what kind of person this is. Personally, I wouldn’t want to be associated with motherfuckers that trip over some money, especially since it wasn’t a loan or anything like that. Friends are supposed to be there for each other and pay when comrades are broke, or at the very least be understandable about not getting the money back right away and NEVER talk shit about comrades. If he continues to talk shit after you tell him how broke you are and how you never knew it was $80, don’t pay him shit, he’s not worth the trouble.

 

[CannibalCrow]

^^ Good advice. That's how I will have to handle it. Pay a bit at a time, and if he continues to be a dick about it.. just end the friendship after he's paid.

 

[BETO916]

Yea, I don't do that to earn my cash anymore

there goes my next idea...j/k

no wonder you never checked into the job thing....THEY'RE IN CALI!!

I'm sooooo dumb sometimes,

**goes back into hole**

 

[CannibalCrow]

^^ Haha it's Ok! Was it that Craigslist site? ( Because I was given that and all I had to do was look up my zip code and it gave me a new listing.)

 

[Dirty Clint]

Your friend shouldn't be talking to anybody about this BUT you. It's nobody else's business what happens monitarily between people. It sounds to me like this dude's a punk. Fuck paying him back, especially with the attitude he's taken. If he's got a money problem with you he need to either cut his losses or keep pestering you and you alone. Fuck people who have to spread that kind of shit all around, that's a bitch move.
If you had known from the beginning and just said fuck it I'm not gonna pay, that'd be different.

 

[moonpizzle]

he probably invited you because the person who he bought them with/for, from the beginning backed out so he scrambled to fill the $80 dollar void and the undeniable jew got over by not telling you until the percise minute you were in the car on the way.

 

[Dana Dane]

Moonpizzle, you have an uncanny knack for sayin shit that makes sense in a way that makes no sense, if that makes sense!

Nonetheless, I agree with ya!

 

[CannibalCrow]

LOL.. we talked on the phone and I told him my situation and how it had to be, and he said this:
(Exact wording)
" You had to know it wasn't free. If you want to dance you have to pay the man!"

What the hell..?

I'm going to end up paying him despite the fact that he didn't warn me ahead of time, and then I'm going to cut my losses and stop talking to him. I'm not going to expect my friends to treat him any different because you can't control who your friends continue to chill with, but as for me it's done.

 

[Senchent]

What I would do-

First, tell him, “listen, I’m broke as fuck, I got bills I have to pay, I didn’t know the shit was going to be $80, it never crossed my mind. Now, I will pay you the money, but unfortunately it’s going to take some time. I can pay you a little bit after I get my paycheck (whatever you can afford), and the rest will come on my next paycheck”.

Now, I would pay him back over time, but the thing is after this shit that happened you now know what kind of person this is. Personally, I wouldn’t want to be associated with motherfuckers that trip over some money, especially since it wasn’t a loan or anything like that. Friends are supposed to be there for each other and pay when comrades are broke, or at the very least be understandable about not getting the money back right away and NEVER talk shit about comrades. If he continues to talk shit after you tell him how broke you are and how you never knew it was $80, don’t pay him shit, he’s not worth the trouble.

AGREE. He doesn't have to be a bitch about it n make a big deal n spreadin your business around like that fuck him. Especially when its 80 bucks n it aint like it's been a long time that u been owing him.