Anyone on here pay child support???

killahoe666 · Feb 24, 2005

I pay bout $340 a month. I was until a couple of weeks ago paying for her cell phone (but i cut that shit off cuz she wasn't answerin tha phone or returning my calls in-order for me to get my son). Maybe I should check that shit out bane. we never went thru no legal bullshit, she did what she did and they started takin child support from my chex but tha fucked up thing is that they was taking back pay from when she was livin with me. we went thru nutn for every otha weekend rights, i jus call her and get him when I want

KALYN · Feb 24, 2005

BaneTheTerrible said:

$200 is a lot of money? how much do you believe the father should contribute to raising his own child? 5%? 15% 50%
Because if (in most cases) the child is living with the mother, she is paying daycare, dr visits, clothes and shoes, formula and diapers... she is the one that is 'responsible' for making sure the child gets to school everyday, to their games and practices, she is the one picking them up from school when they are puking all over the classroom.. she's the one rushing them to the emergency room when they have a broken arm and paying for the dr visit....
Some men believe that if they contribute a couple dollars to feed their child they are doing their part as a parent.... and thats so far from the truth.

Oh and getting the "kid" every other week-end and alternating holidays..? what about when the mother is working and would like to spend time with her kids on a Saturday or Sunday?
.... when my boys were spending "quality" time with their dad every week-end and switching up their schedules, bedtimes and guidlines their grades dropped, I was getting calls from their teachers, bus drivers, other parents because my boys had attitudes and were out of control..
He wants to pop in on Christmas day when he hasnt done shit since his last "assigned" holiday? ... lol... fuck that. Kids arent about "tax credits" ... and I'm not speaking to anyone on here directly.. just stating my opinion based on my situation.

And for the record..I know several men that have gotten screwed by the system when it comes to their child.. one of my homeboys babygirl died when his babys mom put coke in her bottle to stop her from crying... so I know all about mother's that should never have given birth.... but every situation is different.

Dana Dane · Feb 24, 2005

I commend those of you who take an active and financial role in raising your children. I don't have kids, but my last two serious relationships were with men who did, and I can see both sides of the argument.

My greedy ass aunt was gettin a check for $500 every 1st of the month from her daughters dad, and he never missed a payment. She decided after 16 years that it wasn't enough, sued him for child support and now she gets $270. What a slap in her face.

I hate it when broads get their child support checks and be like "aaayyyyyy, I'm fista go to the club, now!!" Shit like that pisses me off, and I have seen it happen hella times.

A girl I know gets a check from the Child Support division for $.50 (cents) every month, and gets pissed because all the garnishments on her sons fathers wages go to payin back support and welfare that she has received her whole childs life. My response to her, she should have used the welfare system YEARS ago to get an education, instead of waiting until she got scared that her kids will all be 18 soon and then she won't get no welfare. Had she made better choices for herself, she wouldn't even be trippin off no punk ass child support.

I understand that it is hella hard for a single mother to raise a child by themselves, but children are not to be used for financial leverage, and if a lot of women made wiser choices in there lives, they wouldn't be in that situation at all. I thank God for the right to choose whether or not to have a baby.

Little Daz · Feb 24, 2005

Well look all I'm saying is because my son spends half the week living with me that maybe I shouldn't be giving her $200 bucks. I do as much for my son as she does and I don't ask her for a damn thing. I ain't really complaining about it, just tryna get some opinions from y'all. And btw thanks for posting up all your viewpoints on this subject, it's turned into a pretty interesting thread.

Humboldt High · Feb 24, 2005

getting a lawyer for family court aint cheap.
my co workers ex was calling his lawyrer and leaving messages on the lawyers voice mail just trying to run up his legal bills. and that shit was working. thousands and thousands of cash down the drain.

KALYN · Feb 24, 2005

Da6Footah said:

I commend those of you who take an active and financial role in raising your children.

I understand that it is hella hard for a single mother to raise a child by themselves, but children are not to be used for financial leverage, and if a lot of women made wiser choices in there lives, they wouldn't be in that situation at all. I thank God for the right to choose whether or not to have a baby.

Amen Sista!

BaneTheTerrible · Feb 24, 2005

@KALYN

I have full custody of my daughter, she lives with me all year, i see NO support from her mother, her mother is ordered to pay 205 a month, with ther residential credit it was lowered to 99 a month. she never turned in the worksheet so she is still responsible for the 205. her back support has reached almost 7,000.00. i have been on both sides of the coin. before i took custody i was paying 249.

what people fail to realize is that alot of these young fathers dont have any real skills or education like myself and end up working low paying dead end jobs, so when you are taking 200 away from someone making 7.00 an hour, that is alot of money and most of the time they cant even make ends meet. that is very discouraging to someone who is trying to do the right thing. i suffered through that for many years. when i was giving advice i was not speaking morally, i was speaking on the way the law is. i have been through it so i was just giving advice.

any real father would want to give everything he has to his child but how can you expect a man to give everything he has and not be able to feed himself or put a roof over his head. how can a father look himself in the mirror if he pays all this money for his daughter but when she comes to visit him she has to visit him in some rat infested shit hole when his babys mother is sitting in a brand new apt that she only pays 80 dollars a month for because she has section 8?

men have it ten times harder then women, even when the fathers have custody. do you think im eligible for any of those programs? some, not all, do i get the same kind of help? no. my daughters mom doesnt have custody, went out and got housing in one week and is moving into a brand new apartment. i have been on the housing waiting list for 2 years and they are well aware that i have full custody and they are fully aware that my daughters mom is behind in her support.

Dana Dane · Feb 24, 2005

BaneTheTerrible said:

Another one of my Pet Peeves. I understand that if you have children, you may need a little bit of government help, but just because you have kids doesn't mean that everything gets handed to you. I have been in the same line of work for over 10 year and worked my ass off to get where I am, and the income level I am at. A friend of mine, because she has kids, got full training to be a medical assistant and walked onto her job makin a dollar or so less than what I make now. I am proud of her, and don't want to sound like a hater, but I think that her training should not have been free, and her salary should not be so damn high, besides the fact that welfare bought her HELLA scrubs, and give her gas money every week. Because I have chosen to NOT have kids yet , I have had to struggle to support myself, work HELLA hard, pay my own medical, and make my own ends meet.

ColdBlooded · Feb 24, 2005

Noodles said:

Hell no, i let those lil fuckers starve.

KALYN · Feb 24, 2005

BaneTheTerrible said:

@KALYN

I have full custody of my daughter, she lives with me all year, i see NO support from her mother, her mother is ordered to pay 205 a month, with ther residential credit it was lowered to 99 a month. she never turned in the worksheet so she is still responsible for the 205. her back support has reached almost 7,000.00. i have been on both sides of the coin. before i took custody i was paying 249.

what people fail to realize is that alot of these young fathers dont have any real skills or education like myself and end up working low paying dead end jobs, so when you are taking 200 away from someone making 7.00 an hour, that is alot of money and most of the time they cant even make ends meet. that is very discouraging to someone who is trying to do the right thing. i suffered through that for many years. when i was giving advice i was not speaking morally, i was speaking on the way the law is. i have been through it so i was just giving advice.

any real father would want to give everything he has to his child but how can you expect a man to give everything he has and not be able to feed himself or put a roof over his head. how can a father look himself in the mirror if he pays all this money for his daughter but when she comes to visit him she has to visit him in some rat infested shit hole when his babys mother is sitting in a brand new apt that she only pays 80 dollars a month for because she has section 8?

men have it ten times harder then women, even when the fathers have custody. do you think im eligible for any of those programs? some, not all, do i get the same kind of help? no. my daughters mom doesnt have custody, went out and got housing in one week and is moving into a brand new apartment. i have been on the housing waiting list for 2 years and they are well aware that i have full custody and they are fully aware that my daughters mom is behind in her support.

Bane--

Before I even begin to speak on your comment I do want to say that I mean no disrespect towards you... my views/opinions come from the flip side of the coin and of course will differ from yours as well as some women that I know.

Oh shit.. here comes my boss....

TBC..

BaneTheTerrible · Feb 24, 2005

i know that girl, you know its all good. its hard being a man and taking responsability. for 6 months after i took my daughter they were still taxing me for child support even though my daughter was with me, not to mention i couldnt get help for daycare so i had to pay 700 a month for daycare all at the same time.

the only handout i have asked for was daycare help because with out it, i couldnt afford it, other then that i work for everything i have. i agree some people need help and can lean on the state but alot of people abuse that and that isnt right. above all, my daughters mom is a peice of shit who is now a recovering addict, she doesnt work, she doesnt have her own place and she has no responsabilites. but redardless what i think i still wont say an ill word around my daughter and i still make sure she see's her mom even when its 5:15 and her mom was supposed to pick her up at 5 and calls me from her house which is 45 miles away giving me excuses, ill still drive her out there and pick her up. thats all apart of life and living with the choices we make.

KALYN · Feb 24, 2005

BaneTheTerrible said:

I understand what youre saying.. but...

In my opinion.. (MY opinion) .. the children shouldnt be the ones that go without. Even if you are young and cant even wipe your own ass- if you get a female pregnant you now have someone that comes before you. True, many dont have jobs or an education but those are the harsh realities of life... a child is to be provided for and $200, however much it may seem to you to be, isnt the other "half" of raising a child.

KALYN · Feb 24, 2005

BaneTheTerrible said:

My first point is.... the world lacks REAL fathers.. I have met only a handful in my life.

Secondly... I expect a man to make the sacrifices in life in order to provide for his child. I have watched men piss their money away on dope, tight fits, going to the club and paying for bitches drinks, cars/trucks w/rims and a bumpin' system before shelling out $20 for diapers and formula.
I wonder how a man can look himself in the mirror when he knows his own child could have more if he would contribute, yet does only for himself.
There are too many babies out there having babies.. never having paid their own power bill and all the sudden they are responsible for a LIFE..?

I'm not directing these posts at anyone in particular... there are two sides to every coin. I am a mother who has made many heartbreaking sacrafices to raise my sons, but as their mother I owe them that. When my sons were little I would sign all the Christmas and Birthday gifts from myself and their dad- when he never contributed as much as a ribbon on them packages. Every once in a while he would ask to pick them up, they'd get excited and all dresed up.... he'd show up and decide that he only wanted to take one of them (they are two years apart) and was cool with watching one of his sons cry in disapointment at being left behind. Or he'd show up so high he couldnt even talk and my sons blamed me when I wouldnt let them go... I always made sure to speak highly of him, they carry his name and I wanted them to always respect him but as my sons got older he explained to them what a "whore" is.. a women that has men calling her on the phone. I've only had one man around my sons that wasnt their dad and I'll never make that mistake again.
I will make whatever sacrifices in my life that I have to in order to make sure my sons grow up with a solid foundation, a good work ethic and a level of respect that most dont understand.

HC1 · Feb 24, 2005

*pops in U.D.I. Drinks on Us, track 5.....Baby by a Wrong Bitch*

:devious:

BaneTheTerrible · Feb 25, 2005

/\/\/\/\ LOL!

@KAY

yea i can dig it. now that i been on both sides, i like where im at now. i dont have to be a weekend warrior parent anymore. there are exceptions to every rule and more and more i see fathers getting better and better so hopefully that will continue.

mR.SiPpYGeTiPpY · Feb 25, 2005

Noodles said:

Daz that you??

if it is then £200 = $380

so your amount you pay aint the same as Americans... cost of living is different.

what you know bout BHP? that album is their best and always will be imo, they pale in comparison to MNLD.

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