Should I go on my own or stay awhile???

[LetzGetNazty]

Well my mom has said some really fucked ^ shit lately to my father, my dad's friend who is currently living with us at the moment and towards me within the past few dayz " not sayign its too personal" anyway ima always be here for my family and everytihng, i was thinking about maybe taking my sisters with me, im working full time never finished school but im planning on going back after this summer to finish, im here for both my parents even tohugh its hard but whats the hardest is that having my dad talk to me or my sister or better yet leave a message on my answer machine all sad and crying ='( im not really running away i still have to deal with it either way they are my parents and my sisters arent mine so ima be invovled all the time i love them all to death even though all the fighting and shyt been trough.. and i dont need to tell about drugs and shit they been thorugh it all. we've tried to get my mom to quit drinking but as said before you cant make someone quit they gotta want to do it on thier own. i found reasons to quit everything i did btu i wanted to she dont and she on pills for menopause and all but she ownt go back to the dr. to see if there is another one she can take to help her more. my dad knows whats up thats why he didnt leave already he trying to stick shyt out til its over but she went crazy one night and we almost had to leave the way she was acting and all. the only reason for me moving out other than im ready to be on my own and all is to egt away from the fighting and everything cuz its killing be bad = / the rest the times its been whatever but now its like fuck idk what to do at times you know i want to stay but go at the time your right on they kids arent my responsibilty and everything but ima still look out for them and everything even if i take them with me which dont really mind btu i dont want them stuck in the middle there one is in high school so she fine and know what to do if anything go down but the other two are in elementary still so its looking bad with them so little watching all this and hearing what my mom had told us and all idk what to really think of what to do at this moment i know to stay but dayum for how much longer ???

 

[Lamberto Quintero]

I know what you're sayin. I care about my immediate family, but I am my own person, just as they are. I would be willing to help but not do it for them.

You can't help someone who is not willing to accept your help. That's why I said sometimes you gotta learn to cut your losses and move on.

I could never "cut my losses and move on" when it comes to my immediate family. I don't care what the situation is, if it's life threatening, anything. I have been through too much shit with them to be able to just move on if they're struggling in any sort of way. The sacrifices I saw my parents make growing up, all the working that they've done and continue to do, is something that I'll never forget and I'll do anything for them and my sister...



PS: Is LetzGetNazty a dude or a girl?

 

[surcaliman]

You can't help someone who is not willing to accept your help.

but how do u know her siblings arent willing to accept he r help.i understand what ur saying about her mother,couse sum ppl are beyond help,but how u gonna tell her to abandon her siblings?obviously moms aint gonna be there for them couse of her demons.so who will be there for them?pops?looks like he has his hands full dealing with a fucked up wife and then having to deal with his kids.she should stay and help her dad be there for her siblings or like she said,take them with her.

 

[I AM]

I could never "cut my losses and move on" when it comes to my immediate family. I don't care what the situation is, if it's life threatening, anything. I have been through too much shit with them to be able to just move on if they're struggling in any sort of way. The sacrifices I saw my parents make growing up, all the working that they've done and continue to do, is something that I'll never forget and I'll do anything for them...

I'm loyal to those who are loyal to me. I give respect when it's given. Do unto me and I'll do unto you. That's pretty much how I work most of the time...

I care about my family, well the people that I consider family, and they've been there for me every time I need them. I would be there for them too. But if my mom turned into an alcoholic, I'd tell that bitch to go to treatment.

I wouldn't disown my parents, even if I think they deserve it (which I never have), I owe everything I have to them.

I think you know what I'm sayin.

 

[mrraskal666]

I KNOW THIS GIRL PERSONALLY AND ALL IMA SAY IS FROM WHAT SHES TOLD ME, THAT HER PARENTS EXPECT HER TO RAISE HER SISTERS AND NOT HER PARENTS, WHICH I THINK IS A SACK OF SHIT, DONT WORRY YOU'LL GET THROUGH IT

 

[CcytzO_Loc]

and besides they lil kids they anit got much choice....they aint the ones wit the problem so why should they be abandoned???? then they gonna end up in foster homes and thas not always a better place.....

 

[Lamberto Quintero]

I think you know what I'm sayin.

Yeah I got you...

 

[I AM]

but how do u know her siblings arent willing to accept he r help.i understand what ur saying about her mother,couse sum ppl are beyond help,but how u gonna tell her to abandon her siblings?obviously moms aint gonna be there for them couse of her demons.so who will be there for them?pops?looks like he has his hands full dealing with a fucked up wife and then having to deal with his kids.she should saty and help her dad be there for her siblings.

I didn't mean it about her sisters, only about her mother. If what I said was misleading, I apologize for that.

Her siblings have their father though too, who obviously cares. She could easily stay and help WHILE her mom is in treatment for the drinking.

 

[I AM]

I KNOW THIS GIRL PERSONALLY AND ALL IMA SAY IS FROM WHAT SHES TOLD ME, THAT HER PARENTS EXPECT HER TO RAISE HER SISTERS AND NOT HER PARENTS, WHICH I THINK IS A SACK OF SHIT, DONT WORRY YOU'LL GET THROUGH IT

What I said holds more water than I thought then.

 

[mrraskal666]

IDK Y U COME ON THE SICCNESS FOR ADVICE, U GOT REAL FRIENDS OUT HERE THAT CAN HELP U

 

[Lamberto Quintero]

Well my mom has said some really fucked ^ shit lately to my father, my dad's friend who is currently living with us at the moment and towards me within the past few dayz " not sayign its too personal" anyway ima always be here for my family and everytihng, i was thinking about maybe taking my sisters with me, im working full time never finished school but im planning on going back after this summer to finish, im here for both my parents even tohugh its hard but whats the hardest is that having my dad talk to me or my sister or better yet leave a message on my answer machine all sad and crying ='( im not really running away i still have to deal with it either way they are my parents and my sisters arent mine so ima be invovled all the time i love them all to death even though all the fighting and shyt been trough.. and i dont need to tell about drugs and shit they been thorugh it all. we've tried to get my mom to quit drinking but as said before you cant make someone quit they gotta want to do it on thier own. i found reasons to quit everything i did btu i wanted to she dont and she on pills for menopause and all but she ownt go back to the dr. to see if there is another one she can take to help her more. my dad knows whats up thats why he didnt leave already he trying to stick shyt out til its over but she went crazy one night and we almost had to leave the way she was acting and all. the only reason for me moving out other than im ready to be on my own and all is to egt away from the fighting and everything cuz its killing be bad = / the rest the times its been whatever but now its like fuck idk what to do at times you know i want to stay but go at the time your right on they kids arent my responsibilty and everything but ima still look out for them and everything even if i take them with me which dont really mind btu i dont want them stuck in the middle there one is in high school so she fine and know what to do if anything go down but the other two are in elementary still so its looking bad with them so little watching all this and hearing what my mom had told us and all idk what to really think of what to do at this moment i know to stay but dayum for how much longer ???

Your siblings need you, especially if your parents are the way you're describing it. Do whatever it takes, but never be like "aahhh fuck it" when dealing with your siblings because if you don't look out for them, no one else is gonna...

If you're parents aren't making it easier for them and aren't going to help, than get them away if you're willing to take the responsibility. Family problems like these can haunt children the rest of their lives...

 

[Stealth]

You should have a pizza party/intervention. Its fun and productive at the same time.

Seriously though - write your mom a note and dont be a bitch about it. Just be straight. List the same concerns you listed here. Give her an ultimatum. See how she reacts. Talk to your pops about it. If you have the guts to list your problems on a message board of complete strangers you oughta have the guts to be open with your family. Get the communication out there. Tell her how you feel. Have your pops and siblings do the same shit. Nobody fuckin talks to each other anymore. And family has so much pride it turns into a fighting contest or personal jabs or something. Stay civil and levelheaded and dont lose composure even if you think your mom ought to be acting like a bigger person.

 

[mrraskal666]

You should have a pizza party/intervention. Its fun and productive at the same time.

Seriously though - write your mom a note and dont be a bitch about it. Just be straight. List the same concerns you listed here. Give her an ultimatum. See how she reacts. Talk to your pops about it. If you have the guts to list your problems on a message board of complete strangers you oughta have the guts to be open with your family. Get the communication out there. Tell her how you feel. Have your pops and siblings do the same shit. Nobody fuckin talks to each other anymore. And family has so much pride it turns into a fighting contest or personal jabs or something. Stay civil and levelheaded and dont lose composure even if you think your mom ought to be acting like a bigger person.

SHES DONE THIS B4 AND HER MOM DONT GIVE A FUCK, I EVEN WROTE HER A LETTER B4 AND SHE DIDNT GIVE A FUCK EITHER

 

[I AM]

Sounds like her mom needs to be in TREATMENT.

 

[Stealth]

I cannot stress the importance of a pizza party.

 

[Fucky McFuckerson]

u must be white.

And you must be a Norteno...oh wait...

 

[surcaliman]

u could also try moving out sumwhere closeby so u can relax from all the b.s. and maybe pick up ur siblings on the weekends so they dont have do see that b.s. all the time.it aint even gotta be all weekend,maybe just on sat. or sun..and it dont have to cost u much.take em to a park or the library.this way both u and ur siblings get a chance at chill without any drama.

 

[LetzGetNazty]

IDK Y U COME ON THE SICCNESS FOR ADVICE, U GOT REAL FRIENDS OUT HERE THAT CAN HELP U

I was wanting to hear other opinons of what they thought, im still listening to you nd slick....

 

[kayvee]

u could also try moving out sumwhere closeby so u can relax from all the b.s. and maybe pick up ur siblings on the weekends so they dont have do see that b.s. all the time.it aint even gotta be all weekend,maybe just on sat. or sun..and it dont have to cost u much.take em to a park or the library.this way both u and ur siblings get a chance at chill without any drama.

good idea.

i live an hour away from my mom and sis and its a bitch. when my mom needs my help i have to drive hella farrrrrrr.

~k.

 

[Gas One]

your mom just needs black cock.

and your dad, well...shit i dunno that nigga can figure it out himself B