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LetzGetNazty

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OK well ive been wanting to move out soon yet lately my parents having the worst problems... moms goign to menopause and became the worst alcoholic ive seen ever and dads trying to keep every together. he starting to get sick again from all the bullshyt fighting and everything, the past two dayz been the worst today kinda fucked but all the crap getting to me and i want to leave but its also liek running away form the situation which i cant i have 3 youger sisters to take care of and if they split up then my dad selling this house and moving some else in the area mom idk what she gonna do..

you think i should still go or stay with my dad for a while...
 
kayvee

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i think you need to concentrate on your typing and english courses.

........and while you are at it, take care of your sisters.

~k.
 
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your sisters are your parents responsibility, if your mom is a shitty parent, she should have had kids....but now that she did....maybe your dad should either put her ass in alcoholic treatment, or get a divorce and take the kids.

staying and "taking care of them" isn't your obligation. you didn't give birth to them, or have sex in order for them to be born. if your mom can't handle her shit, she needs to get some help. if she's not willing to do that, then you pretty much either gotta 1) deal with her shit or 2) leave her the fuck alone and let her figure HER shit out for HERSELF....

sounds like a therapist or marriage counselor would help a lot.
 
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Menopause is no joke! When my mom went through it, it was hell in my house hold too. If anything family first most guys don't understand menopause but trust me it's best to stay out of your mom's way. Don't jam just yet help your pops out too with your sisters.
 
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Deal with it..or at least don't run away or move out. (If anything, stay with a friend for a few days.) Your sisters are your parents' legal responsibility, but you have an ethical/moral responsibility as an older sister to help them, too. And you four can help each other get through the troubles..running away from them (problems) isn't going to help. Tough it out and when it's all over you will be a stronger person, guaranteed.
 
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stay N help out the fam. fuck what I AM said! those are your sisters. yea u didnt have them but dont you want to see them grow up koo N not have them all fucked in the head because they didnt have someone there to lookout 4 em N let them know everything will be koo? your moms going through a tough time so you gotta be there 4 her too. jus stick around 4 a while N try to do what you can. let your sisters be your #1 priority! then if things get to outta hand N you have no choice, fuck it bounce but still take care of your sisters!
 
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It's not her fucking problem to deal with in the first place. If her mom has problems, that broad needs to deal with them. It's not running away. The only time it's running away (in my opinion) is when you are obligated to do something but you bitch out and quit.

She's not obligated to do anything and staying there may not make things any better. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on. If her mom is becoming a raving bitch alcoholic, she needs to be put in treatment.

Using her sisters as a reason to stay is pretty low too. That's like saying, "but I can't live without you, if you leave me I'll kill myself" or some crazy shit like that.
 
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It's not her fucking problem to deal with in the first place. If her mom has problems, that broad needs to deal with them. It's not running away. The only time it's running away (in my opinion) is when you are obligated to do something but you bitch out and quit.

She's not obligated to do anything and staying there may not make things any better. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on. If her mom is becoming a raving bitch alcoholic, she needs to be put in treatment.

Using her sisters as a reason to stay is pretty low too. That's like saying, "but I can't live without you, if you leave me I'll kill myself" or some crazy shit like that.
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do you have siblings?

~k.
 
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^^^i dont think he does.but if he does,he obviously dont give a fuck about them .how the fuck u gonna go on with ur life like nothings wrong knowing that ur familys suffering?thats ur fukin blood man.
 
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No, it's more like saying, "We're in a fucked up situation and even though we're family and all, I'm gonna leave because I have the ability to do so," instead of saying, "We're in a fucked up situation and since we're family, I'm gonna stick it out at least for a while and see where things go and hopefully those of us who stick together can make things a little better for one another."

Plus this seems like a very recent problem and so leaving at this point seems a little premature. My mom's been an alcoholic my whole life (guaranteed to be drunk by 3 pm), verbally abusive and all that, but my family stuck together to support ourselves until we were forced to split up because of our education. You can't force anyone into treatment, they have the help themselves at a certain point. But at the same time it's family and you can't just abandon them because (at least in my situation), they're helpless to help themselves and to do so would almost be worse than what they have done to you. That's the philosophy my father taught me..it's not necessarily the "right" philosophy (as if there is one), but it's the type I'm going to express. Take it or leave it.
 
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kayvee said:
do you have siblings?

~k.
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Step siblings. I've had friends go through this shit and I had to deal with it with them cause they needed someone to talk to.

Either way, as a child or whatever, it's not her responsibility to take care of her family or support them because her parent...or shall I say mother, is a fuck up.

Take Lamberto's advice and give your mother a BLUNT.
 
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surgurliman said:
^^^i dont think he does.but if he does,he obviously dont give a fuck about them .
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Family don't mean shit. I got friends who are more family than family. Blood ties dont' mean shit. I don't care who you are, if you fuck me over, I don't care who you are. I got family that has robbed my mom (her brother) and that mother fucker is NOT my family. In fact, if I ever see him again, I'm sending him to the hospital, and my entire family knows this.

Some people have a DIFFERENT outlook.
 
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surgurliman said:
sucks for u to have such a fucked up life.
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I have family that I care about, but just because they are my "family" doesn't mean I have an obligation to care about them...especially if they don't ever try to contact me...yes, some of my family is fucked up. i think everyone's family is fucked up in some way.

i'm completely happy with my life, it really couldn't get much better, i like who is in my life, and i'm fine with not talking to "family" that robs my fucking parents. my mom's brother also jacked their father for hella money when he was dying.

family is a word. the relationship is something completely different.

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u must be white.
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no shit, look at my avatar buddy.
 
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Sixx- I see exactly what you're saying. I got some dipshit uncles and cousins that I could care less about too, I'm sure everybody does. But when it comes to my immediate family, I really don't put anything ahead of them, not even myself. I feel that way about some of my cousins and other family, as well as towards some friends. Because I do consider some friends like family...
 
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Lamberto Quintero said:
Sixx- I see exactly what you're saying. I got some dipshit uncles and cousins that I could care less about too, I'm sure everybody does. But when it comes to my immediate family, I really don't put anything ahead of them, not even myself. I feel that way about some of my cousins and other family, as well as towards some friends. Because I do consider some friends like family...
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I know what you're sayin. I care about my immediate family, but I am my own person, just as they are. I would be willing to help but not do it for them.

You can't help someone who is not willing to accept your help. That's why I said sometimes you gotta learn to cut your losses and move on.

I have 3 friends that I consider to be my brothers and I would do anything for any of them, and they would all do the same.

The harsh reality is that she can't do anything FOR them, they have to want to do it themselves and then do it.
 
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